perhaps I’m wrong; so here are some of my thoughts after kicking out my roommate and ex:
her: “fix the dishwasher dipshit! *slams door*
To her, the issue is that I’m not fixing the dishwasher because I want to spite her by making her do dishes. Were they her dishes? Yes. Should she wash them with or without a dishwasher? Yes. There’s no spite here; she just needs to clean up after herself. But why wouldn’t you just get maintenance to fix the dishwasher for free like she asked? For several reasons in the following order of importance:
- She hasn’t paid rent still and its the 10th: so in context of this living situation, she is living for free and it’s in very poor taste to make demands of a person who is doing you a favor by letting you live with them for free. It’s especially poor taste when one factors in the ~$600 in car repairs that I did for her, the $100 tires that I’m still waiting for her to return or pay for, and all the money I’ve spent in a month on her from covering $170 car tow, $80 vape, $50 cbd, $10 wiper blades, $50 air mattress, $40 iphone screens, $??? restaurant/food. In my view, it’s about being grateful and having some basic respect:
- Disrespect: She decided to bang on my door at 11pm to argue about the dishwasher, after sending texts blaming me for her not having rent money. Yea, read that one again. After calling me a dipshit and slamming my door, I advised her to “get the fuck out.”
- Her history of disrespect: She’s lived off her parents for years without paying rent and then blames them for nearly everything including “sabotaging her” to “stealing her phone.”
Maybe I’m just a simpleton who doesn’t grasp the intricacies of her interactions with people who care and try to help her. To me, she seems to be disrespectful, ungrateful, spoiled and very immature.
Dear Leigh, no one owes you anything and you don’t deserve anymore than what you have.